I know that you are only little at the moment (and can’t read) but I wanted to write you a letter to tell you a big ol’ bunch of things that I will tell you when you are older, but you might not want to listen to. Especially if you have decided for the briefest of moments that I am uncool, which I point out now, I will never ever be. Let us not forget that.
You are, already, a phenomenal human being. Watching you grow and learn every day has been the most amazing thing I have seen. From seeing you realise when you were super tiny that that thing that waves around when you get excited was your own hand to you realising this week that if you smile sweetly enough at someone they are likely to give you their breakfast has been a wonderful journey of emotions that I have loved sharing with you. This is only the start.
I will give you many pieces of advice in your life, most of which will probably be along the “Yes, I know everyone else is doing it, but you are not having AWESOME tattooed across your forehead. Trust me, you’ll thank me later.” lines. There are, however, a few pieces that I want to share with you now.
- Your curiosity for EVERYTHING is something you should never lose. It will lead you to beautiful places and people. Never be afraid to ask questions and rarely just take “No!” for an answer. I promise to try to explain why you cannot do something, rather than give you a flat no.
- Remember to take some time to do something creative. Bake some bread, draw a picture, sing like a loon whilst dancing in the rain. Your body and soul will thank you for it. Now you are steadier on your feet we shall be practising the singing and dancing bit, you have the loon bit inherently sorry.
- You will kiss a few frogs before you find your prince. This is not to say that each froggy frog will not feel like “the one”. If it turns out that they aren’t I will always be there with blankets and tissues and tea and cake and cuddles. As will your father. He may be secretly rejoicing that the “youth” has vamoosed, because he probably didn’t like him anyway.
- Be kind to yourself. Speak to yourself as you would someone you love.
- Eat cake.
- There are a lot of people, blood family and chosen family, that love you very very much. They may not be very close in distance but they will always be there if you need them.
- This last one is a big one, if you can only remember one thing I tell you let it be this. Do not EVER let someone tell you that your are not good enough or are incapable of doing something. You can, and will, do whatever you set your heart and mind to. Remember that other people’s negativity towards you is a reflection of their own fears and insecurities and not about you or your abilities.
Your dad and I will always love you and we will always be there for you, whatever you decide to do. We will probably all have moments where we don’t agree but that won’t change the way we feel.
A few last thoughts that are less mushy but equally important.
If you want to get something pierced, please tell me first. I will more than likely come with you.
Not everything in a Disney film is true. There are no delightful woodland creatures that come into your house and tidy everything up. Your fairy godmother is not a small plump creature with wings. She is a gorgeous lady called Aunty Sarah, who makes awesome cakes and is a very good listener.
As much as your father will try to make you believe there is a small family of weasels living in his beauteous beard, there is not. Sad but true.
I have probably missed some major parental points but hey! Bringing up a family is a learning curve for everyone.
Lots of love,
p.s. I will not be offended if you didn’t want to see my face every two hours at night.