Where’s the village?

Last year I wrote a post about me and motherhood. If you haven’t read it then you can take a gander here.

I was astonished by the amount of positive responses I received and the amount of women that contacted me to say that they were feeling the same and had no idea that other people were too. And that got me thinking.

Mental health is at last becoming a more talked about subject. But, that seems to be as long as you are talking about someone else’s mental health. Start talking about your own and the person opposite you will probably start looking a bit uncomfortable.

From an early age, when we tell someone that we are a bit sad or that we are angry, we get all manner of phrases lobbed at us and not a lot of listening happens. “Don’t be sad, it’s sunny out.” “Oh don’t be silly, man up!” And the WORST possible thing that can happen to an English person is someone answering anything but “Good, thank you” when you’ve asked how they are.

There is still a huge social stigma attached to sharing your feelings and “diseases of the mind”. You can be off work with a broken leg and no one bats an eyelid but heaven forbid that you are off with stress. The sad thing is that because of the way we are conditioned, that person who is off with stress will be instantly labelled by the majority of their peers. They will question what he has to be stressed about, “seems alright to me”, why he needs time off work to “deal” with it, maybe she’s just lazy? Why did they employ her in the first place, she’s clearly not cut out for the job.

Why do we do this? Why don’t we help to support that person rather than rallying the troops to vilify them?

Forgive me for a couple of minutes as I now appear to disappear off on a slight tangent and please, do NOT take this as a sob story. It isn’t.

When I was pregnant with Elsie, I was really looking forward to how close to other women having a baby would make me. You are supposed (that was my impression and expectation) to get this wonderful supportive village of women when you’ve had a baby. Almost as soon as it comes out, boom! Instant support and community. Some people get this, I didn’t. To say I was disappointed was the understatement of the century.

My nearest family/friends were over an hour’s drive away, there was no practical support. When my husband went back to work it was just me and the baby. All. Day.

I tried to go to baby groups, to find my village.  In my sleep deprived, highly emotional, no-one to talk to state I was now being told that my 3 week old should be having a nap right now, I should have got over my baby blues, baby X doesn’t feed that often, baby Y doesn’t need to do what your baby does, how can you not find the time for a shower everyday? Someone mentioned post natal depression, they were told it was just their hormones and because they were breast feeding. I didn’t feel supported. I didn’t find my village.

Slowly but surely it dawned on me that I hadn’t broken my baby and I wasn’t a dreadful mother because I did X instead of Y. I realised that most of what was being said was lies. It was mostly a cover up because no one wanted to be seen to be a bad mother. I got cross. Why were we putting each other down to make ourselves feel better and WHY were we lying to each other when we’d all had awful nights? Why was post natal depression such a taboo subject and why weren’t we helping each other?

When we become mothers our whole life is pretty much turned upside down, for every single one of us. It is, for most of us, for the better but it is a hard and bumpy ride. It would be made an awful lot easier if we helped each other through it.

Family life is busy. It’s noisy, screechy and full of washing and cleaning and work and bedtimes and dinners to cook. It’s splitting yourself between your work and your home, your husband/wife and your kids, your friends/extended family or trying to run everything single handedly and at some point trying to shoehorn sometime in for you. This can make us overwhelmed, undervalued and hugely resentful, of everyone and everything. I’ve even been jealous of the cat. True story, sooooooo much sleep and belly rubs.

All of us are busy trying to juggle things (and sometimes dropping them) and all of us have things going on that other people can’t see. Most of the time a you don’t need a solution to baby’s sleep problem or the fact that Oscar won’t eat his pees or will only wee in the vegetable patch, it’s a phase. Sometimes a mumma just needs a wee in peace and a hug. Hold the baby and give the hug.

Let’s build our villages back, ladies.


How to make an origami crane

Morning all!

Have you been over to check out our facebook page?  or checked us out on Instagram?

Once you’ve had a perusal, grab your origami papers and get ready to fold!

You don’t have to use origami papers. Wrapping paper or any thinnish type of paper will do. I got a lovely pack with clouds on from Tiger stores. Sadly they don’t have an online shop and my nearest is about 60 miles away. *sob, sob*

I apologise for some of the pictures, they were taken during nap time so time was of the essence and the sun kept disappearing.

If your paper has a front and back, lay it face down on your work surface.


Fold the right hand side over to the left hand side and crease well. Open back out.

Fold the bottom up to the top, crease well and unfold.

FLIP! you should now have the pretty side facing you.


Take the bottom right corner and match it to the top left corner. Crease and unfold.

Repeat for bottom left to top right.

Turn the piece on it’s tip so it looks like a diamond. Lightly re fold the creases you made in the first two steps so that the paper is standing on the 4 corners.

Pinch the 4 corners together.



Put the top bit with the left bit and the bottom bit with the right bit and you will end up with a smaller diamond. Lay it down on the work surface with the open bit at the bottom and the closed point at the top. With me so far?


Take the topmost right corner and fold the bottom edge up to meet the centre fold. Repeat for the left side. Flip the piece over and repeat right and left on this side.

Fold the top point down, crease, then back up. Flip, repeat on other side.

Open the sides out so it looks like a diamond again. Pick the topmost piece up from the bottom and carefully open the shape out. you will need to give the creases at the top a bit of a poke from the inside. Go back over the creases once the piece is flat. Flip. Repeat on the other side.

Fold the upper most piece on the right against the centre fold. Repeat on the left. Flip.  Repeat on the other side.

This next step is a bit tricky to write down but easy to do so follow the pictures if I’m not making any sense. Squidge is a technical term.

Take the upper most piece on the right and lift it so that the side opens out a little. Fold the bottom point up and then squidge the side bits back together. Repeat on the other side.

They can be even or not. You’ve now got the head and tail with the wings in the middle. Choose which end is going to be the head of the crane. Open that side up a little and fold part of the tip down. Squidge the bits back together.


WINGS! We are nearly there!

Now, gently, very gently, but a little less gently if it isn’t doing anything, take a wing tip in each hand and pull. Gently. The middle section should start to flatten out. If it needs a little more encouragement, hold the wings closer to the body and pull again. BE GENTLE!!. or you end up with a ripped crane.


Now do a little dance! You’ve made your crane.

Keep an eye out on instagram and facebook over the next few days for inspiration on how to use them.




Quick Free Crochet Patterns

Hi! I’m Katie and I have a making-things addiction.

Sometimes I need a quick fix. I don’t want to start a massive project, I just want to make something in 5 – 10 minutes and then I’m all good. For another hour or so at least.

So here’s my list of fabulous free, quick and satisfying makes. What are you waiting for?!

Crochet a heart in one round, here. Below is my attempt.  3 minutes, hurrah!

quick crochet heart


Super easy flowers here.

Buttons! Yes! Crochet buttons! HERE!

BALLS! here.

Now! Go forth and crochetfy!


Foundation single crochet help


Ive had some rare hooky time today and realised just how much I hate doing foundation chains. I decided it was about time I got over my fear of the foundation single crochet ( US terms). Ive been trying for ages to get my head around it and it just baffled me.

I came across this video on youtube from www.crocheteverafter.com :

She explains the process really well and I’ve actually managed to make my first fsc! Hurrah!


Unfortunately, I then got distracted by chocolate. Oh well. It needs a bit of practise but yay for learning new things.

What crafty baffler have you recently overcome?